Did He Call my Fat Roll, Mrs. Jiggle?
We’ve all been there. Boy meets girl. Boy likes girl. Boy takes girl to dinner. Boy and girl enjoy a delicious courting filled with late morning weekend brunches, impressive candle-lit dinners and double spoons for dessert. We love this period don’t we? Exploring fancy restaurants and puting on our chef’s hat to prepare that impossible dinner that even Ina Garten would applaud.
Then one day, we wake up to go on yet another blissful brunch date, only to find that our jeans aren’t sliding up as easily as they did three months ago. We turn and hop around in the mirror, as if this form of jazzercise will solve our problems. We check the tag to make sure we didn’t buy the wrong size. Nope. Not this time. You really have gained weight.
Ideally, both of you will get nice and fluffy together, seeing that you’ve both have been stealing kisses in between bites of pasta. It’s not the end of the world, just consider it the first test of coupledom. While I wouldn’t suggest throwing away every late night menu, canceling foodie dates and enlisting in bootcamp for the rest of your dating career, I would offer tips that can help you still enjoy each other and be each other’s health champion.
- Go Green. Instead of driving, walk or ride your bicycles. If you’re lucky enough to live in a city with exciting amenities and attractions, do you part in saving the environment and pick a few local spots to hang out and smooch in public. If you’re not into PDA, then at least you’re only a stone’s throw away from home so you can hurry up and get back to business.
- Beware of Mr. Jiggle. While we all love giving our partner’s body part’s cute names, it may not always be cute. Be mindful that weight gain can be sensitive for some, so try placing kisses NOT comments on your partner’s bodies. Let them know that you support their efforts to be in shape.
- Have a Menage a Trois. That’s right, it’s a party for three! Look at the relationship you have with food and encourage your partner to do the same. Create your own beneficial relationship with food as a couple so that food supports your body goal’s in a fun and nutritional way.
- Sizzling Salsa. What better way to bond and share intimacy while swaying your bodies to sexy, sizzling salsa music? Take a class together and burn some calories while building your nonverbal communication skills. Dancing does wonders for couples and bodies!
*Article submitted and written by Shelley Chapman for the Body Image issue of YourTango.com and used in 10 Tips for Losing Weight As a Couple.