Are you Fear’s B!tch?

At times I am. But most of the time I’m engaged in a level of self-mastery that allows me to attract business and learn the powers of my body.

You all have been seeing some changes on this site as a direct result of me letting fear do its job and me taking care of mine.  Many have asked, how do you shift from a 9-5 to being an entrepreneur when you have bills to pay?  I thought of bills but more importantly I thought of my life.

“I could no longer reduce my life to the sum of my debt”- Shelley

Am I saying don’t pay what you owe, heck no! But I am saying ask yourself 3 major questions and see what flows. #AskedQuestions=#ReceiveDivineAnswers

1. What is your big why?

Seriously.  What’s so appealing about owning your own business? Being your own brand? Working nights on end without sleep?  Feeling the tremors that come from launching your first event or product? I wanna know!

• For me it was about owning my own time,  I really hated having to ask another grown person if I could take a day or two to just chill out, visit my mom or get a sexy chocolate coating on my body courtesy of the sun. 
• When I was teaching, my time was really “their time” and it was only whey they felt it was convenient for them  (i.e. spring break, summer vacay, etc.).  Please!
•  I also wanted to explore my passions, which at the time was hair and food. I was used to “fitting” in making my hair products or blogging after work and on weekends. But guess what? Sometimes I got really great ideas during the day and I couldn’t act on them because I was tethered to a classroom and had taken on the responsibility of other people’s children. No bueno!
• Lastly, although I wasn’t married and didn’t and still do not have children, I knew that being a part of their and my husband’s lives was huge for me. I didn’t want to miss any part of enjoying pregnancy, raising my babies and being there to spend time with my husband. Having a 9-5 would’ve totally gotten in the way and it’s not what I want to teach my children.

2. What am I afraid of? Is it real?

My biggest fear was failure. Will people support me? Am I kidding myself with this “pursuing my passion thing?” The last thing I wanted to do was crawl back to somebody’s job fair after a year of “giving it a shot”. Whether your fear is money or success or lack thereof, in truth the fears are all the same. Fear. Don’t be her b!tch.  What we have to ultimately do, is after we admit our fears, we have to ask ourselves are they true?  More than likely, you’ll find that they’re not even close to true.  It’s an illusion that you bought into, a story you created because you “heard” it might be true.  I’ve seen my bank balance read $100.  I didn’t see “omg I’m so broke”, instead I saw an opportunity to fuel my car with gas, buy groceries and pay my phone bill while I created my next big income earner.

“A lack of money can fuel your creativity.” -Shelley

3. Has it been done before? Then it’s possible.

• There is nothing new under the sun.  You are not the only one who has thought about it.  Matter of fact, people have not only thought about it, but they’ve done it and made it. That’s right honey!  This isn’t rocket science but it takes the same dedication for the rocket to soar. Ever heard the saying “birds of a feather flock together”?  Well you need to get to flocking.  In my case, I had friends who had ventured out a few years before me, so I started kicking it and deepening my relationship with them. I had associates who were also entrepreneurs, so I started calling and asking questions in exchange for dinner (my gift to them). I also started stalking finding people online who I digged and following them.
• When my wings felt broken or incapable of flying, I was able to fly on their backs because that’s what birds do, support each other in flight. This is a journey. The entrepreneurial world is one of the riskiest and most aweseome flights you’ll ever take. You definitely risk losing yourself, only to find that all you lost were the versions of yourself that didn’t support the process (READ: entrepreneurial success) that was emerging inside of you.
• Fear is a bitch and it rears it’s head often (even for me) but regardless, it’s just doing its job. There’s no need for you to do fears job.  Just do you and watch all the avenues unfold and the lights turn green so you can soar.

4. If all else fails: Mast(H)erMind™

This past Saturday, Akilah and I launched The Brownie Boutique: A Mast(H)erMind™ Experience. A free, virtual shopping experience for  your body + business.  We also gave some A’s to people’s Q’s. Did you miss it? It’s all good, you can still sign up, so you can get the recording and listen and stop being fear’s bitch once and for all.

About the Author: Shelley Wellness Life Coach™

Hi, I'm Shelley, the woman behind Eat Relate Love™. I'm a Harvard + Spelman grad and passionate food lover. I'm known to employ your senses; as the catalyst for you to experience your wellness and inner transformation. It's great to meet you. Care for more of this same experience? Get it delivered. http://bit.ly/wellfed